Don’t you just envy the guy who seems to find it so easy to walk up to any woman and talk to her without appearing to be the least bit nervous?
You know confidence tops the lists of attributes a woman looks for in any man but try as you may, you cannot stop trembling at the thought of having to go up to a woman and speak to her.
Here are a few things you can do to project an air of confidence on the outside even though you are a bundle of nerves on the inside.
Maintain eye contact
This is so important. When a person is nervous, their first instinct is to avoid eye contact. Instead they tend to look around the room and anywhere else except at the person they are talking to. You’ve met people who have behaved like that when talking to you, remember?
Think back to how you felt about that person. Unfriendly and untrustworthy are two of the first thoughts that would have come to mind. No matter how nervous you are, maintaining eye contact will help you hide those inner butterflies and help you appear more confident than you actually are.
Don’t talk too much
People who are nervous tend to jabber on ceaselessly and more often than not, they will not be saying anything impressive. So when you want to make your presence felt, remember babbling on will do nothing to help you appear confident.
If you want to be a part of the conversation, it’s a better idea to ask a few smart questions. This gives you several advantages – it allows you to stay in control of the conversation and steer it in the direction you want it to go without you having to actually say much. While the other person is busy trying to answer your question, you have enough time to quieten the inner tremors and regain your cool and confident outward composure.
When you do speak, do it slowly, clearly and confidently. Mumbling under your breath is as bad as being a loudmouth.
Compliment others freely
When you compliment others it says a lot about how confident you are about yourself and that you have the ability to rise above any situation and give credit where it is due.
Many guys make the mistake of thinking that the best way to show that they are confident is by talking about their achievements while putting somebody else down. That’s not true. When you do that, you only come across as a jerk instead of coming across as someone who is confident.
Confident men are typically friendly, generous with their praise and polite and that’s what you should aim for.
Nothing says confidence like a warm, open smile. With a smile on your face, nobody will notice how nervous you are. More interestingly, as you smile, even you will forget all about being nervous. Try it, you may just surprise yourself how easy it can be to appear confident to a woman.